Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Oh, and

Most of the time I'm pathetically happy. I really like the whole selective impression-thing that normal people seem to do all the time. I've always been very bad at it but it is a lot of fun to be able to choose what to acknowledge. I think I understand now, why some people are so confident even though they have absolutely no reason to, and why others who should be, totally aren't. I never thought I'd consider ignorance a skill.

1 comment:

Purgatid said...

Reality doesn't change. Only the perception of the same reality can change. When C dumped me (you know) I was dropped into a hole of depression unlike any other I have been in before.

However, a friend of mine taught me that the situation is static, and every situation has an upside so it. The trick to become happy is to aquire the ability to focus on the positive sides.

The human psyche is one based on association. For an example - if I associate C leaving me with lonleyness, rejection and grief, then that I also how the situation will occur to me. To turn this around, I tried to connect the situation of being dumped with the feeling of freedom, the feeling of a clean sheath and endless possibilities.

I had success, and as a result, the grief stemmed from a 4 year long relationship which ended badly - was limited to just about two weeks. Then I was happy again, and I could go on with my life, form a new relationship with someone else, and focus more on my career.

The way you do it is by summon up a positive feeling, then force yourself to feel that while thinking of the situation which hurts you. By association, the more you connect the positive feeling with the situation harmful to you, the less harmful it will become, and you will see possibilities where there were only pain before.

I think that is what you're doing right now. You're in love with someone, and he (for some inexplicible reason) doesn't respond the way you'd want.

But you keep your love, and you feel good even though most people would crumble. That makes you beautiful, and it makes you powerful (in an inter-personal sort of way).

Anyway, I'm long winded, I know.

Just wanted to say that no situation inheritedly is good or bad. The perception of the situation by those involved in it is what determines what the nature of the situation is.

And I like your blog.